It is natural for human beings to desire love; as the saying goes, ‘love makes the world goes round’. Though it may not be true in the physical or scientific aspect, it may carry some truth for humans who live their lives daily in relationships.
Humans are created to have interaction with one another. There is always some connection between human beings. Special relationships are found between humans of opposite gender as in a love relationship like marriage. There is also the family bond which is part of a loving relationship. No one is an orphan as everyone is connected or linked with another through love. Humans are not meant to live their lives alone; there is an innate need in humans to interact with one another and to express their emotional needs to be fulfilled such as care, joy, sorrow, pain, sacrifice and so on.
Men and women can do many things to inspire or build up love between them, and to avoid the many prevailing problems that tear down their relationship today like financial difficulties, addiction, infidelity, arrogance and abuses. Often times, the solution is very simple and plentiful. You only need to make time for love to grow in you and in your spouse or loved ones.
Every person in a relationship has taken on the responsibility to work on the relationship which will keep the involved parties together or apart. Each party has a role to play by caring for the other person instead of adopting a selfish and arrogant attitude. Wives can do simple tasks like preparing a good meal for their husbands where husbands can surprise their wives with something they like, no matter how small or simple the gift may be. Women are more emotional creatures and welcome any kind gesture from their spouse. Even some new and sexy lingerie can encourage a little more romance in the relationship and put it on a more solid platform.
Today, marriage vows are hard to keep but not impossible if both parties stay focused on their vows, taking them to heart and commitment. It is both parties’ responsibilities to deliver the vows to the other party. Love is about up building the other spouse and not the self.
There are many ways to keep your love aflame for your loved ones.
Honesty in Love
Honesty is the best policy as the adage goes. Both parties need to accept each other as they are without trying to change the other. It is hard to keep up a pretention or a charade. When you are honest in love, you will feel free to be yourself and you will find true love because you will attract those who enjoy what they see or know of you.
All humans know and must learn to accept that no one is perfect; not even the self. So, how can one demand or insist perfection from another? Only God is perfect. We can only work to be the best as happily as we can so that we can enjoy our lives with our loved ones.A lot of riders struggle to develop trot lengthenings with their first level dressage horses. What follows are 7 quick tips to help your horse with his lengthenings.1. THE AIDS FOR TROT LENGTHENINGSWhen you're ready to ask for an upward transition from working trot to a trot lengthening, apply the aids simultaneously, as follows:* Seat: use a driving seat, as though you're pushing the back of the saddle toward the front of the saddle.* Legs: press lightly with both legs to signal your horse to express his energy forward over the ground in longer strides.* Reins: soften your hands a bit forward, but keep a contact with your horse's mouth, and a bend in your elbows. Do not 'throw the reins away'.2. TROT LENGTHENINGS develop suppleness.Here's an image that will help you understand the type of suppleness you're developing when you practice lengthenings with your First Level horse. Think of your horse's body as a rubber band that can easily stretch and contract. Not only will this quality make him more athletic, but it's also extremely useful for all disciplines of riding. Take showjumping, for instance. Just think how many jumping faults could be avoided if your horse's stride were easily adjustable like this!3. MAINTAIN THE TEMPO OF THE WORKING TROTAs with most new work, when you begin to incorporate lengthenings into your training at First Level, you start in the trot. It's a bonus if you have a horse that can naturally lengthen his trot. Many Warmbloods and Arabians have this ability, but I've worked with a lot of Thoroughbreds, Connemaras, Morgans, and Quarter Horses who really need help developing their trot lengthenings.If you ask your horse to lengthen in the way I've described and the tempo gets quicker because he runs with short, fast steps, you need to systematically develop his lengthenings. Part of his difficulty may be purely physical. He may lack the suppleness and strength that he will gain in time by basic dressage training. But part of the problem may be that the horse just doesn't understand that he is to take longer strides in the same tempo. He actually thinks he's being obedient when he rushes off because he feels you close your legs, and he responds eagerly by immediately going forward.I often find that I can help him understand that he is to lengthen his strides without speeding up, by asking for the trot lengthenings while going up hills. Once he gets the idea, I go back into the ring and see if he can transfer this concept of lengthening in the same tempo on the level footing.Sometimes I do something unusual with the horse that tends to quicken his trot tempo when asked to lengthen. Since it takes time to develop the trot lengthening, I go out in a big field, or I go all the way around the ring and round off the corners so that I don't have to slow down for them. First, I take up a heavier contact than normal. In this way, I can temporarily act as the horse's fifth leg and purposely support him so he doesn't lose his balance. Then I ask for a lengthening in posting trot. While posting to the trot, I rise very high and stay in the air a fraction of a second longer than normal. I pretend that I can hold the horse in the air with my body. And, in my mind's eye, I picture him floating over the ground with his feet never touching the ground.I ask my horse to give me a greater and greater effort and eventually one of two things will happen. The first is that he realizes that his legs can't go any faster, and he 'shifts into overdrive' and takes some longer, slower steps. At this point, I immediately stop, praise him, and let him walk on a loose rein.In my experience I've found that the first time, I might have to go all the way around a ring once or twice before I get a couple of longer, slower steps. But after the reward, the next effort yields results much sooner. And the same for the next attempt.The other thing that might happen is that he loses his balance and falls into the canter. This isn't the disaster it seems to be. If my horse hadn't lost his balance and cantered, his next trot step probably would have been a bit longer. So I re-establish and immediately ask for a trot lengthening. It's in that moment that I'm most apt to get a longer stride in a better tempo. And once again if I get even one or two better steps, I stop and praise him. The reward helps the horse to understand that by doing something different, even if initially he doesn't understand what it is, he'll be praised.Once I get two or three better steps as soon as I ask for the trot lengthening, I leave them for another day. During each session the horse builds his understanding of what's being asked, and over time he physically gets strong enough to lengthen in a good tempo for a greater number of steps.4. HEAR THE TEMPOUse some good auditory images to help you while you're teaching your horse to do a trot lengthening in the same tempo as his working gait. Pretend you're standing by a paved road and your eyes are closed. Because the tempo stays exactly the same, you can't tell from the sound of the footfalls whether your horse is in the working gait, lengthening, or doing the transition in between.Here's another auditory image to help you teach your horse to lengthen the trot in the same tempo as his working trot. Pretend you hear a metronome ticking. The tempo stays exactly the same both when you're in working trot and when you're in the lengthening. (Even though I'm discussing trot lengthenings at the moment, you can use the same type of auditory image if your horse quickens his tempo in a canter lengthening. 'Hear' the tempo as if your horse is moving over the ground with big, ground-covering bounds in slow motion.If your horse still tends to quicken his tempo when you ask him to do a trot lengthening, overcompensate by imagining that you 'hear' the tempo get slower. Pretend that the tempo gets slower because your horse stays suspended in the air for a long time. If you're doing a posting trot, try rising and sitting more slowly to see if you can be the one to set the pace rather than automatically posting at the speed that your horse chooses.5. USE FIRMER CONTACT FOR SUPPORTDon't be surprised if the contact with your horse's mouth during trot lengthenings becomes somewhat heavy. Remember that lengthenings are developed out of the working gait at First Level, and the weight in your hands is somewhat firm to begin with. In addition, while your horse is learning how to balance himself during trot lengthenings, his center of gravity might shift even a bit further to his forehand. Don't be alarmed by this. It's a stage of his training, and it's fine to temporarily support him by maintaining a firmer contact. Later on, if you decide to go on to more advanced work, you'll develop 'uphill' extensions out of collected gaits. Because the horse will have a greater degree of self-carriage when he's in a collected gait, the contact will be lighter.However, there's a fine line between a solid, supporting contact and one in which your horse is leaning so heavily on your hands that your arms ache. Here are some things you can try to improve a contact that is too heavy. Before you even begin to ask for a trot lengthening, make sure you drive the horse's hind legs more under his body by closing both of your legs. In order to carry himself, your horse needs to have his hind legs underneath him. If his hind legs are trailing out behind his body, he can't support himself in the lengthening and he has no option but to lean on your hands.You can also ride some quick transitions: from trot to halt and back to trot again, or from the canter to the walk and back to the canter again. This will help to re-balance your horse and make the weight in your hands more comfortable. Another reason the contact can get too heavy is that you may be asking for too many lengthened strides at one time before your horse is ready. Doing well-balanced trot lengthenings with his hind legs underneath his body for only a few strides at a time is much more valuable for your horse than lengthening for many strides with his hind legs pushing out behind his body. Remember that when you do the downward transition back to the working gait, be sure that you close your legs to send his hind legs under his body. It might feel natural to ask for the downward transition from the lengthening to the working gait by just using the reins. But, as you know by now, if your goal is to rebalance your horse and improve the contact, you need to add hind legs while doing the downward transitions.6. ALLOW THE FRAME TO ELONGATE IN TROT LENGTHENINGSIn trot lengthenings, the front feet should touch the ground on the spot toward which they are pointing when each leg is at its maximum extension. When a horse has to draw his front legs back toward his body before placing them on the ground, or his toes flip up in front, it usually indicates that he hasn't been allowed to lengthen his frame. Sometimes a rider makes it difficult for the horse to lengthen to his utmost. Although I said earlier that you shouldn't be concerned in the contact is a bit too firm, you want to be sure that you're not making it heavy because you're cranking his neck in. If you keep your horse's neck short by restricting him with strong or non-allowing hands, he has to draw his foreleg back before putting it down. Allow your horse to lengthen his neck and point the tip of his nose more or less forward. To help you to do this, think about 'opening the front door' by softening your hands a bit toward your horse's mouth and by cocking your wrists upward in a way that allows your little fingers to go more forward.7. SIT UPRIGHTWhen you use your driving seat to ask for the transition into the trot lengthening, don't try to 'help' your horse to lengthen by leaning back. Even though you might feel that you can drive him forward this way (and I see many dressage riders doing this in lengthenings and extensions) you'll just end up driving his back down and making it hollow. Stay vertical at all times.I learned this lesson about sitting correctly in trot lengthenings the hard way while trying to qualify for the Olympic Festival with Jolicoeur at a competition that was being held at Knoll Farm in Brentwood, New York, back in 1987. One of the finest international judges in the world, the late Mr Jaap Pot, was there. He was a stickler when it came to the correctness of the rider's seat. I remember Jo and I doing huge extended trots for him. I thought we had done really well until my score sheet came back with extremely low marks for the extensions and the simple comment - rider leaning behind the vertical. Believe me, it made an impression.
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