It is natural for human beings to desire love; as the saying goes, ‘love makes the world goes round’. Though it may not be true in the physical or scientific aspect, it may carry some truth for humans who live their lives daily in relationships.
Humans are created to have interaction with one another. There is always some connection between human beings. Special relationships are found between humans of opposite gender as in a love relationship like marriage. There is also the family bond which is part of a loving relationship. No one is an orphan as everyone is connected or linked with another through love. Humans are not meant to live their lives alone; there is an innate need in humans to interact with one another and to express their emotional needs to be fulfilled such as care, joy, sorrow, pain, sacrifice and so on.
Men and women can do many things to inspire or build up love between them, and to avoid the many prevailing problems that tear down their relationship today like financial difficulties, addiction, infidelity, arrogance and abuses. Often times, the solution is very simple and plentiful. You only need to make time for love to grow in you and in your spouse or loved ones.
Every person in a relationship has taken on the responsibility to work on the relationship which will keep the involved parties together or apart. Each party has a role to play by caring for the other person instead of adopting a selfish and arrogant attitude. Wives can do simple tasks like preparing a good meal for their husbands where husbands can surprise their wives with something they like, no matter how small or simple the gift may be. Women are more emotional creatures and welcome any kind gesture from their spouse. Even some new and sexy lingerie can encourage a little more romance in the relationship and put it on a more solid platform.
Today, marriage vows are hard to keep but not impossible if both parties stay focused on their vows, taking them to heart and commitment. It is both parties’ responsibilities to deliver the vows to the other party. Love is about up building the other spouse and not the self.
There are many ways to keep your love aflame for your loved ones.
Honesty in Love
Honesty is the best policy as the adage goes. Both parties need to accept each other as they are without trying to change the other. It is hard to keep up a pretention or a charade. When you are honest in love, you will feel free to be yourself and you will find true love because you will attract those who enjoy what they see or know of you.
All humans know and must learn to accept that no one is perfect; not even the self. So, how can one demand or insist perfection from another? Only God is perfect. We can only work to be the best as happily as we can so that we can enjoy our lives with our loved ones.
Do you love people? Do you love things? Do you love people and not things? Do you love things and not people? Do you love yourself? Do you love whatever you're addicted to? Do you love money? Do you love the thrill of the chase? Do you love the feeling of defeat?
TIP: Don't laugh. The feeling of defeat can be a definite turn on for someone who doesn't succeed at anything except defeat. The point here is to find what you love.
You see, everyone loves something. Even the person who says he doesn't know how to love. At the bare minimum, he loves the feeling of not knowing how to love, simply because he is in his "comfort zone." If nothing else, people love to be in their comfort zone, even if the comfort zone excludes love.
Again, I say, everyone loves something. It may be in varying degrees, but it's still a form of love.
If someone asked you if you felt loved, and your answer was "no," but you wished you did, then this article is for you.
Lot's of people don't feel loved, but wished they did. The problem is, they don't know how. They don't realize that love can be a learned response.
There are people out there who are loved, who are loving, and who love. Lots of times, but not always, one person is all three. Are you saying to yourself, "Yeah, that's THEM. I'm ME. Nobody loves me." That may be your reality, but it's not law. I say: If you can think, you can learn. If you can learn, you can love. If you can love, you can be loved.
Practice loving yourself, and understand and believe that what goes around comes around. It's that simple.
Once you love yourself, you will automatically send out love.
TIP: We're not talking romantic love here. We're talking basic life -- we're-happy-to-be-alive-we're-in-love-with-the-world love.
My life turned around once I discovered how to love myself.
Do you want to know how I did it? Here's how:
Whenever I had a negative thought, I said, "Thank you, Lord!"
I triggered myself to immediately recognize that I was having a negative thought, and to say, "Thank you, Lord!" in its place!
The minute a thought came in that said anything negative, I went immediately to "Thank you, Lord!" Your words could be the same or different. It doesn't matter as long as you replace your negativity with something that isn't negative. Your words could be, "Hot dang! I did it again! I ain't going to do that no more!", and then smile like you've never smiled before. It really doesn't matter. Whatever you choose to say will stop the old habit of thinking badly, and the smile alone will do wonders. When you get the negative thoughts gone, you'll have plenty of room to feel the love you are giving yourself!
Take control of your life and your thoughts now. Stop the bad thought the minute the first word comes out and replace it with words that you now "choose" to say.
In other words, say what makes you feel good and nullifies the situation, taking away the negativity.
TIP: In case, you didn't realize it, negativity does not promote love. We need to promote love in ALL our thoughts, so we can become used to having love in our lives.
What you are really doing is helping yourself immensely. You know how? Remember that I said, What goes around, comes around? You've now decided to stop the bad from going out. That, alone, will change your life around. Make it a point to only send out good.
Truly. Only YOU can decide. Only you can fill your life with love. Once you have love inside, you'll receive more of it, because that's what you'll be sending out AND that's what's coming back.
Thanks for reading,
Oral Fixation by Michael Fiore