It is natural for human beings to desire love; as the saying goes, ‘love makes the world goes round’. Though it may not be true in the physical or scientific aspect, it may carry some truth for humans who live their lives daily in relationships.
Humans are created to have interaction with one another. There is always some connection between human beings. Special relationships are found between humans of opposite gender as in a love relationship like marriage. There is also the family bond which is part of a loving relationship. No one is an orphan as everyone is connected or linked with another through love. Humans are not meant to live their lives alone; there is an innate need in humans to interact with one another and to express their emotional needs to be fulfilled such as care, joy, sorrow, pain, sacrifice and so on.
Men and women can do many things to inspire or build up love between them, and to avoid the many prevailing problems that tear down their relationship today like financial difficulties, addiction, infidelity, arrogance and abuses. Often times, the solution is very simple and plentiful. You only need to make time for love to grow in you and in your spouse or loved ones.
Every person in a relationship has taken on the responsibility to work on the relationship which will keep the involved parties together or apart. Each party has a role to play by caring for the other person instead of adopting a selfish and arrogant attitude. Wives can do simple tasks like preparing a good meal for their husbands where husbands can surprise their wives with something they like, no matter how small or simple the gift may be. Women are more emotional creatures and welcome any kind gesture from their spouse. Even some new and sexy lingerie can encourage a little more romance in the relationship and put it on a more solid platform.
Today, marriage vows are hard to keep but not impossible if both parties stay focused on their vows, taking them to heart and commitment. It is both parties’ responsibilities to deliver the vows to the other party. Love is about up building the other spouse and not the self.
There are many ways to keep your love aflame for your loved ones.
Honesty in Love
Honesty is the best policy as the adage goes. Both parties need to accept each other as they are without trying to change the other. It is hard to keep up a pretention or a charade. When you are honest in love, you will feel free to be yourself and you will find true love because you will attract those who enjoy what they see or know of you.
All humans know and must learn to accept that no one is perfect; not even the self. So, how can one demand or insist perfection from another? Only God is perfect. We can only work to be the best as happily as we can so that we can enjoy our lives with our loved ones.
Freud showed us with his work that our sexual instincts have an important role in our mental health. He discovered the existence of a subconscious content under the conscious surface, where our hidden desires remain. The subconscious concentrates our traumas, emotions, and past memories.
After him, Carl Jung discovered that there is also a collective content in the human psyche. The disregarded content of the subconscious is not the only unknown content in our psyche. He named the huge unknown content of the human psyche as the collective unconscious. The collective unconscious is the shared memories of humans throughout history. He then named the subconscious as the personal unconscious.
Jung is the only one who managed to decipher the hidden code of the dream language. Thanks to his ability to understand the meaning of dreams, he discovered that our dreams are produced by the unconscious mind. The unconscious mind sends us hidden messages in the dream images. These images are symbols. We can understand the unconscious messages when we understand the meaning of the dream symbols.
After continuing Carl Jung's research in the human psyche, I discovered that there is another unknown region that Freud and Jung could not see. It is the anti-conscience, our wild, violent and immoral conscience that didn't evolve like our human conscience. The anti-conscience provokes mental illnesses and mental disorders into our human conscience in order to destroy it. This way, it will manage to control our behavior instead of being tamed by the sensibility or our human conscience.
The anti-conscience starts destroying the human conscience mainly by invading it when a person is in love. This is why love is very dangerous for the human being.
The unconscious mind tries to protect our human conscience, and this is why it sends us many dreams about love. These dreams are so clear that we can very easily understand their meaning. Their symbolism is nearer to the logic of our human conscience.
You should be very careful when you are in love because love makes you forget everyone else. It also makes you forget all your plans. Love transforms you into a slave. It makes you completely forget your moral principals and betray those you should respect. Love is very near mental illnesses because it makes you lose control. You become idiotic and ridiculous.
I concluded that Freud could perceive how dangerous our sexual instincts are because the anti-conscience possesses them. This is why our sexual fantasies are based on immorality, and the human being feels pleasure with absurdity.
This means that the importance of love in your life is huge. When you are in love your sexual instincts start dominating your mind. You should follow dream therapy and transform your personality so that you avoid being a victim of your anti-conscience.
You'll have very clear information about the person you love in your own dreams. This is how you'll successfully overcome all the dangers of delicate situations that could have a negative impact in your psyche. You'll avoid many traps and find authentic happiness that lasts for life.
Oral Fixation by Michael Fiore