It is natural for human beings to desire love; as the saying goes, ‘love makes the world goes round’. Though it may not be true in the physical or scientific aspect, it may carry some truth for humans who live their lives daily in relationships.
Humans are created to have interaction with one another. There is always some connection between human beings. Special relationships are found between humans of opposite gender as in a love relationship like marriage. There is also the family bond which is part of a loving relationship. No one is an orphan as everyone is connected or linked with another through love. Humans are not meant to live their lives alone; there is an innate need in humans to interact with one another and to express their emotional needs to be fulfilled such as care, joy, sorrow, pain, sacrifice and so on.
Men and women can do many things to inspire or build up love between them, and to avoid the many prevailing problems that tear down their relationship today like financial difficulties, addiction, infidelity, arrogance and abuses. Often times, the solution is very simple and plentiful. You only need to make time for love to grow in you and in your spouse or loved ones.
Every person in a relationship has taken on the responsibility to work on the relationship which will keep the involved parties together or apart. Each party has a role to play by caring for the other person instead of adopting a selfish and arrogant attitude. Wives can do simple tasks like preparing a good meal for their husbands where husbands can surprise their wives with something they like, no matter how small or simple the gift may be. Women are more emotional creatures and welcome any kind gesture from their spouse. Even some new and sexy lingerie can encourage a little more romance in the relationship and put it on a more solid platform.
Today, marriage vows are hard to keep but not impossible if both parties stay focused on their vows, taking them to heart and commitment. It is both parties’ responsibilities to deliver the vows to the other party. Love is about up building the other spouse and not the self.
There are many ways to keep your love aflame for your loved ones.
Honesty in Love
Honesty is the best policy as the adage goes. Both parties need to accept each other as they are without trying to change the other. It is hard to keep up a pretention or a charade. When you are honest in love, you will feel free to be yourself and you will find true love because you will attract those who enjoy what they see or know of you.
All humans know and must learn to accept that no one is perfect; not even the self. So, how can one demand or insist perfection from another? Only God is perfect. We can only work to be the best as happily as we can so that we can enjoy our lives with our loved ones.
What are trotting poles?
Trotting poles are often a set of 4-6 showjumping rails that are laid out at ground level. Generally, they are used to trot over. Of course, if your horse is just starting out, you can walk over the poles. Then progress to trotting your horse over the poles. And later in your training, and with an adjusted distance, you could canter over the poles
Do they become 'canter poles' then?!
Trotting poles are used at various distances to develop a series of training exercises for both horse and rider. Plain rails can be used but the colours of showjumping rails are an ideal introduction to the world of showjumping for your horse.
Do you use something different or something else as trotting poles in your training?
Why use trotting poles before you start show-jumping?
As a rider, the benefits are:
- Improve your balance as a rider
- Improve your rhythm in your riding
- Find a focus and an 'eye' for distance
- Develop the discipline of riding a line (for showjumping)
- Be able to ride and adjust your horse's stride
For your horse, the benefits are:
- Improve their balance as a horse carrying a rider
- Improve their rhythm and ability to lift off the ground
- Give your horse confidence in approaching an obstacle
- Develop their jumping style for showjumping
- Find a focus when approaching their next obstacle
- Develop an ability to adjust their stride
So you can see why trotting poles are so important before you start showjumping.
How do you set up a series of trotting poles that are good for your horse's training?
Find 4-6 showjumping rails that you can use as a set to make trotting poles. Most times if you start with a distance of 1.4 metres between the rails you will be pretty close to an 'average' horses trot stride.
Of course if you already know you are riding a pony you could start at 1.1 metres or if you are riding a big warmblood horse you could start off from 1.5 metres. From where ever you start, know that you are aiming for your horse to go forward in trot with an even rhythm and no change in tempo. Your horse should place a hoofprint halfway between the rails. Adjust the distance between the rails to suit your horses stride. Feel the different trot strides that your horse has.
It is important to find your horses 'natural' stride. Then you can make the adjustments that you want to shorten your horses stride or lengthen your horses stride. The set of trotting poles will help you get a feel for your horse's natural stride as well as adjusting the stride shorter or longer. In showjumping, you need to train your horse to be able to have a shorter or longer stride where necessary, that is part of the art of showjumping!
Once you and your horse have mastered the basic set up of trotting poles, you can do lots more exercises to develop your riding skills in showjumping training. Like setting up the trotting poles on a curved line. The distance at one end is wider than the other end and it is your job as a rider to stay on the line that takes you through the centre of the rails. Not as easy to ride as when the trotting poles are in a straight line, that is for sure!