It is natural for human beings to desire love; as the saying goes, ‘love makes the world goes round’. Though it may not be true in the physical or scientific aspect, it may carry some truth for humans who live their lives daily in relationships.
Humans are created to have interaction with one another. There is always some connection between human beings. Special relationships are found between humans of opposite gender as in a love relationship like marriage. There is also the family bond which is part of a loving relationship. No one is an orphan as everyone is connected or linked with another through love. Humans are not meant to live their lives alone; there is an innate need in humans to interact with one another and to express their emotional needs to be fulfilled such as care, joy, sorrow, pain, sacrifice and so on.
Men and women can do many things to inspire or build up love between them, and to avoid the many prevailing problems that tear down their relationship today like financial difficulties, addiction, infidelity, arrogance and abuses. Often times, the solution is very simple and plentiful. You only need to make time for love to grow in you and in your spouse or loved ones.
Every person in a relationship has taken on the responsibility to work on the relationship which will keep the involved parties together or apart. Each party has a role to play by caring for the other person instead of adopting a selfish and arrogant attitude. Wives can do simple tasks like preparing a good meal for their husbands where husbands can surprise their wives with something they like, no matter how small or simple the gift may be. Women are more emotional creatures and welcome any kind gesture from their spouse. Even some new and sexy lingerie can encourage a little more romance in the relationship and put it on a more solid platform.
Today, marriage vows are hard to keep but not impossible if both parties stay focused on their vows, taking them to heart and commitment. It is both parties’ responsibilities to deliver the vows to the other party. Love is about up building the other spouse and not the self.
There are many ways to keep your love aflame for your loved ones.
Honesty in Love
Honesty is the best policy as the adage goes. Both parties need to accept each other as they are without trying to change the other. It is hard to keep up a pretention or a charade. When you are honest in love, you will feel free to be yourself and you will find true love because you will attract those who enjoy what they see or know of you.
All humans know and must learn to accept that no one is perfect; not even the self. So, how can one demand or insist perfection from another? Only God is perfect. We can only work to be the best as happily as we can so that we can enjoy our lives with our loved ones.
Finding True Love: What Is True Love?
There are different types of love:
Agape -- unconditional love, God for mankind
Philia -- Philiadepia, the city of brotherly love, or love that exists between close friends.
Storge -- Love that grows between family members.
Eros -- sexual, erotic love
In today's modern culture, romantic love is usually based on Eros, which is the most immediate and lowest form. Philos grows over time, although sometimes two people can meet and feel like they have known each other forever. Agape, between people, is revealed over time by enjoying the good times and weathering the storms. Agape is where character is also revealed. This one is truly a gift from God. An example of Storge could be where we would die for one another as for a beloved brother or child. For marriage, ideally there will be a mix of all.
Love is kind. At all times, choose to be kind. If your partner does something stupid, how about not mention it?
It does not envy. Rejoice in your partner's successes. Be encouraging. Also weep when they are weeping. Not every situation requires a solution.
It is not proud. Arrogance is not love.
Love always trusts. Even if you have doubt, choose to trust. If later, you are wrong, what is the worst that can happen?
Love always hopes. Choose to hope.
Are you seeing the common theme? Love is a choice!
Oral Fixation by Michael Fiore