It is natural for human beings to desire love; as the saying goes, ‘love makes the world goes round’. Though it may not be true in the physical or scientific aspect, it may carry some truth for humans who live their lives daily in relationships.
Humans are created to have interaction with one another. There is always some connection between human beings. Special relationships are found between humans of opposite gender as in a love relationship like marriage. There is also the family bond which is part of a loving relationship. No one is an orphan as everyone is connected or linked with another through love. Humans are not meant to live their lives alone; there is an innate need in humans to interact with one another and to express their emotional needs to be fulfilled such as care, joy, sorrow, pain, sacrifice and so on.
Men and women can do many things to inspire or build up love between them, and to avoid the many prevailing problems that tear down their relationship today like financial difficulties, addiction, infidelity, arrogance and abuses. Often times, the solution is very simple and plentiful. You only need to make time for love to grow in you and in your spouse or loved ones.
Every person in a relationship has taken on the responsibility to work on the relationship which will keep the involved parties together or apart. Each party has a role to play by caring for the other person instead of adopting a selfish and arrogant attitude. Wives can do simple tasks like preparing a good meal for their husbands where husbands can surprise their wives with something they like, no matter how small or simple the gift may be. Women are more emotional creatures and welcome any kind gesture from their spouse. Even some new and sexy lingerie can encourage a little more romance in the relationship and put it on a more solid platform.
Today, marriage vows are hard to keep but not impossible if both parties stay focused on their vows, taking them to heart and commitment. It is both parties’ responsibilities to deliver the vows to the other party. Love is about up building the other spouse and not the self.
There are many ways to keep your love aflame for your loved ones.
Honesty in Love
Honesty is the best policy as the adage goes. Both parties need to accept each other as they are without trying to change the other. It is hard to keep up a pretention or a charade. When you are honest in love, you will feel free to be yourself and you will find true love because you will attract those who enjoy what they see or know of you.
All humans know and must learn to accept that no one is perfect; not even the self. So, how can one demand or insist perfection from another? Only God is perfect. We can only work to be the best as happily as we can so that we can enjoy our lives with our loved ones.
When love is depicted in the media, acclaimed in poetry and song, pursued with wanton vigor, it is often accompanied by intense emotion,physical attraction, eroticism, addiction and strong longing...wanting...needing. We all really know that this is not love at all. This love, when frustrated (and it will be frustrated), easily turns to hate. Here, the beloved has become a sort of object of ownership.
Hold me close, hold me tight
Make me thrill with delight
Let me know where I stand from the start
I want you, I need you, I love you
With all my heart
"I Want You, I Need you, I Love You," Words and music by Elvis Presley
In the Spanish language, when someone expresses love to the beloved, that person may say, "Te quiero," which means, "I want you" as well as, "I love you." "Te amo" means "I love you." It does not involve want or need. When we express love for one another, it usually means, "Te quiero," rarely "Te amo."
If this theory is true, then to the degree that I forgive myself, leave myself alone and love myself without condition, then to that extent, I am love. Other people who see that in me can "come in" and play; can experience unconditional love, unobstructed by the demands, judgments and needs of my ego.
As a practical matter, here's how it seems to operate in my home. To the extent that I leave my wife, Monita, alone, I love her. To the extent that my ego tries to manipulate her life in any way, I hate her. I have converted her then into an object that my ego thinks somehow belongs to me. I mean, really...!!!
As a healing habit, then, always show yourself unconditional love. Leave yourself alone!
Language of Lust by Michael Fiore