Relationships are fragile bonds that must be continually nurtured and respected in order to flourish. Each person involved in a relationship is responsible for providing value to the other half for a natural balance to be created. It is when this balance is broken that problems start to occur. Eventually an unbalanced relationship will dissolve, and this usually leaves one side still hoping things can be resolved. Being the only one working for a resolution can be a tough and lonely proposition, but there are ways to salvage even the bleakest situations.
There is an old saying that “no one needs the needy” and it applies itself well to broken relationships. Begging, clinging, and desperate behavior is much more likely to repel your lost love rather than attract them. Not only is it important to prove to the world that you can perceiver in the toughest of times, but you also need to prove it to yourself. While no one is claiming that breakups are easy, keep the yelling and crying behind closed doors.
It is not easy to win back the love of your life, but it can be done. Determination and consistency are the most essential qualities needed to be successful. The basic strategies above will get you started on your quest, but it is important to continue to adapt to the situation. If you truly love your Ex, then you need to do everything in your power to prove yourself. For more resources, please visit Get Back My Ex.
When love is depicted in the media, acclaimed in poetry and song, pursued with wanton vigor, it is often accompanied by intense emotion,physical attraction, eroticism, addiction and strong longing...wanting...needing. We all really know that this is not love at all. This love, when frustrated (and it will be frustrated), easily turns to hate. Here, the beloved has become a sort of object of ownership.
Hold me close, hold me tight
Make me thrill with delight
Let me know where I stand from the start
I want you, I need you, I love you
With all my heart
"I Want You, I Need you, I Love You," Words and music by Elvis Presley
In the Spanish language, when someone expresses love to the beloved, that person may say, "Te quiero," which means, "I want you" as well as, "I love you." "Te amo" means "I love you." It does not involve want or need. When we express love for one another, it usually means, "Te quiero," rarely "Te amo."
If this theory is true, then to the degree that I forgive myself, leave myself alone and love myself without condition, then to that extent, I am love. Other people who see that in me can "come in" and play; can experience unconditional love, unobstructed by the demands, judgments and needs of my ego.
As a practical matter, here's how it seems to operate in my home. To the extent that I leave my wife, Monita, alone, I love her. To the extent that my ego tries to manipulate her life in any way, I hate her. I have converted her then into an object that my ego thinks somehow belongs to me. I mean, really...!!!
As a healing habit, then, always show yourself unconditional love. Leave yourself alone!